Self Care

Once upon a time, there was a cobbler who was famous for the elegant shoes that he used to make. He was also generous and kind hearted, helping anyone in need. He lived in a small village and he was the only talented cobbler in that village. He was responsible for repairing the shoes and making new shoes for everybody in that village. After some days, he noticed that his own shoes were torn but he was busy tending to the needs of the villagers and making exquisite shoes for some of the rich, getting a lot of praise in the process. He completely ignored the worn out shoes that he was wearing. Initially, there was no problem, but slowly there was a big hole in the sole of his shoes and it started becoming frail and torn. However he neglected the state of the torn shoes and kept on making footwear for others, feeling happy with the appreciation. He felt satisfied when you made free shoes for the people who did not have the means to afford it.
In due course of time, his tattered and worn out shoes started giving him painful blisters and he began walking with a limp, some of his customers started to worry about it, but he reassured them that it will get cured in a while. They continued to shower him with blessings and wishes for a selfless service and hard work. He was lauded for doing a fantastic job in spite of the boils, blisters and the limp.

 

 

After a few months, the blisters became extremely painful and the infection started spreading to the extent that he could no longer work. He could neither repair his shoes nor make or repair anyone else’s. He started regretting the gross neglect of his part as he lay on his bed tending to his wounds.
Does this story seem familiar to what many of us have done with our lives or what we have faced? This is a simple story which would have struck a chord with many of you to address an important issue this significant aspect of our life which we tend to ignore often is self-care and self- love.
In this self absorbed world, we tend to ignore the fact that our cup is not only half empty, it is almost empty. We spend years neglecting the poor state of our own half filled cup while tending to the needs of the people around us. Taking care of others gives us a sense of satisfaction and contentment. We often ignore ourselves and our own needs were trying to appease others.

If you do not look after yourself, after a while, the hollowness within you will make you incompetent to tend to the needs of others. Even with the best of your intentions, you won’t be able to radiate or share any happiness, or take care of the needs of anyone if youareempty from within. If one does not have time to care for themselves, then no one will.
This principle is applicable in the current global scenario where in we are under tremendous stress and pressure due to the ongoing pandemic. This is particularly in the case of frontline workers and all those who are impacted by the invisible monster, who have barely any time for self care and self grooming.

 

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Food Nutrition facts

 “Diet is the essential key to all successful healing. Without a proper balanced diet, the effectiveness of herbal treatment is very limited.”

 Food as nutrition

My journey on lifestyle change began with understanding how food nutrition impact on body mind complex. Hence this area of food nutrition is very dear to my heart.I could talk forever on this birthday will attempt to stick on what I think is most important to understand.

   Today we live in a world where nearly everyone is on one day or another. People talk about Carbs, calories ,fats ,proteins , restrictions, and good foods and bad foods. Diet books are best seller. Cooking shows are  more popular and yet more families are eating day outs. It was not so long ago when humans had an innateability to know what is good for them. People simply knew what to eat and how to prepare it. Thay did not have so much cerebral interpretation of basic  human needs. People naturally ate what was local seasonal available and what gave them proper nutrition for living

Being healthy is not a complicated. The body knows what to eat. It is the brain that makes mistakes. All you need to do is work on building a deep relationship with your body and it will tell you what it needs to function at its highest potential. It took a long time for me to understand the value of this last point. Today I am very much live by this principal. Once you have fostered this deep relationship with your body you can being you trust your body. So how do we foster this relationship.

We first need to accept that we have personal difference in anatomy, metabolism ,composition of  bodily fluids and cell structures . So we have highly individualistic nutrition needs. No no! that is not a go ahead to eat junk food. It is to re-emphasize  the need to build a deep relationship with your body. Our personal tested and preferences nature shape natural shapes and sizes blood type, metabolic rates , and genetic  background influence what foods will and wants nutrition us. One person is food is and other persons poison. That is why fad diets do not work in the long run.   They are not based on the reality that we all have different dietary needs. Yes a little experimenting and awareness is listing to our body will bring us the deep connection.

If you have any doubt on the connection then begin by accepting that your body is highly intelligent. You are hard never misses a beat. Even if you are going through some trauma your heart keeps pumping and your lungs keep breathing. Your body has involved insrincts to keep you alive and well. Just as a tree will always learn to words like humans and animals for that matter no instinctively  what food is good for them. 

Do not ignore the signals your bodies are Constantly giving us. Dark circle around the eye is mostly a signal of exhaustion. Your body is telling you to slow down and take a rest. Constipation and bolting are mostly a sign of something you are eating ,  or that the way you are eating  it is in appropriate for you. I encourage you to listen to the signals and not wait until it become unbearable and you have to get on to meditation or in the surgical theatre.

You could keep a food more journal . Developing  that connection with your body you might to join things down things like every time I eat bread my stomach hurt or every time llentil Soup  I feel satisfied and see no negative of the effect. Certain combination of foods will give you gas , certain foods will prevent you from sleeping well, certain food will give you a clear mind.

Do remember that Help has to be a holistic. So when the body is giving you signals it does not have to be food nutrition that need adjustment. It could very very well be some time to do with your exercise routine or your mental state I.e., stress or chemicals in you are in external  environment that needs changing. That is why we are paying attention to getting the basics of lifestyle change read a book . Lifestyle change is what brings us health and happiness.

Now we can focus on the foundation of food nutrition through the actionable steps.  remember that the simple actions have huge impact. I have listed here the most impactful actions

Actionable steps

1. keep a food – mood journal. This will assist you to foster the connection to your body.
2. Eat clean food. Meaning eating as neutral as possible. Presticide free if  possible else wash well with a little vinegar. If you know of food has GMO, then if possible, avoid it.cut down on proceed, highly refined (example white flour products) or packed food and chemicalized  food. Apply the 80–20 rule here 80% of the time eat clean and the other 20% eat food that is a little processed. Or maybe for You 90–10 rule work better.you decide build up slowly to words whatever you decide as you will fall of the band wagon.eating clean also promotes your connection with your body
3. Eat home prepared meals. This way you know what is going into your body.also remember, no food testes like mom’s food. This  is because food cooked with love carries a different energy.
4. Replace instead of cutting out. Step by steps as you eat more and more clean food, your cravings for those foods that you know are obviously bad for you will begin to fall away from your choice of food.if you start by cutting out bad food items which you have are craving for than you you are craving will increase and once again you will fall of the bandwagon.so focus on including more and more good foods rather than excluding bad foods.
5. Eat less meat, dairy, sugar and chemicalize, artificial junk foods consume less coffee, alcohol, and tobacco. Yes we have do not want to take out. We would rather replace. However, most people who carry out this action step feel more energised and recover from illness faster.
6. Eat more fresh fruits and vegetables. We all have heard this several  time . Start with 2  Apple a day. See what happens to the body with just this simple change. Then slowly increase the variety of foods consumed per day.
7. Include fresh vegetable juice. non-talking smoothies juice using a juice extractor. Work up to having these 2–3 times a week. I have found these two have huge impact on my health. Carrot juice with some ginger, apple and some lemon ( White rind included ) is my favourite. Give a boost of nutrients quickly into the blood. Keep a gap of half hour after before you consume any other food item.
8. Experiment with whole grain legumes. E.g. beans, lentils, lupine,peas, and peanuts. 
9. Include fermented Foods. These are foods such as picked vegetables and yoghurt.
10. Sure dough bread. If you do have bread, then have sour dough  bread that  is made with natural ingredients. It is much easier  on the digestiveSystem .
11. Increase intake of a variety green foods and especially of leafy green vegetable. For example broccoli , spinach , kale, green herbs, cabbage. Nutritionally Green greens are packed with phytonutrients minerals and their health benefits are huge.
12. Increase sweet vegetables. Instead of depending on processed  sugar, you can add more naturally sweet flavour to your daily diet and dramatically reduce sweet cravings.
13. Experiment with protein. Protein is the building block of our body but most of us eat way too much protein. Because of our bio individuality our protein intake varies  from person to person. Hands, best to experiment with source of your protein and amount of protein and notice the impact of your body.
14. Read ingredients list get into the habit of reading and ingredients List on food item packaging before purchasing. So you can understand what you are putting into your body. The ingredients are always listed in order most quantity to least quantity. So, specially watch out if sugar is the first listed them. Look out mainly for food additives that have been proven to be caused to different diseases if consumed regularly for example, MSG, artificial food colorant, sodium initiate , high- fructose corn syrup, artificial sweeteners , carrageenan, sodium benzoatetrans pets, artificial flavouring,  Yeast extract . 
15. Avoid refined processed sugars. This is the one and only time we Say avoid. 
16. Clean dairy. If you have dairy then swop  the very form forms where cows are grass fed . Dairy that  is free from antibiotics, growth hormones is animal by products, preservatives and  stabiliser. If you  prone to sinus issue or ear, nose and throat congestion, then this change over could resolve the issue.
17. Oils for cooking. The oils we use have a huge impact on our body. Be aware of the effects of oil use for cooking. Use cold pressed oil. The safe and healthy oil or coconut oil and Olive Oil. I sometimes use ghee to cook. Ghee is my go to fat.
18. Say a prayer of gratitude before meals. Prepare your body to receive the food by saying a prayer of blessings and gratitude for all the farmers, transporters, suppliers and all those that were responsible for the food on your plate. Imagine your body getting ready to receive the food that is currently sitting on your plate.
19. Eat with awareness and chew your food well before swallowing. This allows the saliva in the mouth to do its work. In fact, the mouth is where digestion process begins. If you break down your food in your mouth already, then the remainder of the digestion process improves.
20. Use a tongue scraper to clean tongue twice a day after brushing. It comes from the tradition of ayurveda. It makes you more thoughtful and authentic in your speech. It helps fight cavities, prevents bad breath, decreases cravings, enhances taste bud activities.
21. Include food of all colours in each meal or daily or at least over a few days. The different colours represent different phytonutrients. This way you are ensuring that your body is getting all the phytonutrients it needs. As a child you wanted the crayon box with the most colours. You would not have dreamt of drawing a picture in drab neutral.
22. Detox regularly. This is so important that it could be a topic of its own. Detoxing regularly will help remove the disease causing toxins from the body. You could do some form of detox daily, weekly, monthly, seasonally, and then a bigger detox yearly. Five sample a single weekly detox would be to eat six meals of Khichdi dish in the week and six meals of lightly spiced  steamed vegetables in the week. Learn more about detoxing and find ways that suits you. Examples are dry fast, intermittent fast, juice fast, water only fast, fruit fast etc.
23. Soak nuts and seeds and dried fruits overnight. By soaking nuts and seeds, you minimise or eliminate the nutritional inhabiters and other toxic substances as they are absorbed into the water. Without the inhibitors and toxic substances, The nutrients of the nuts and seeds are more readily available for absorption. Dried fruits can be drying on the body and soaking them counteract this.
24. Oh I think that is more than enough. Time to stop.
25. Always consult your healthcare professional before making any of above changes.
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How to Deal with Difficult People

Does The thought of going to work every day weigh on you? do you dread family functions because you expect to bump into some tiresome person ? was is your answer or a resounding yes ? is it because you are apprehensive about dealing with difficult people ? if so it is totally understandable .

It must feel like entering a battleground every time. dodging bullets and bombs and oh, what was that ?Ego shrapnel ?it happens .Unfortunately , it takes all sorts to make the world ! so when you have to step into hostile territory ,how do you prepare yourself?

    Avoid meeting then ? Pretend they don’t exist when the proverbial head in the sand ostrich approach?  Well ,you can run but you cannot really hide , at least not forever. At some point you are going to have to learn how to handle these difficult people .so why not start now?

 Try these steps to learn how to deal with difficult people .

1  Agree to disagree 

Remember that everyone has a right to their opinion. in life you are not going to meet Only similar minded people .so you are bound to have some difference of opinions which some people. this is specifically true when you are working with difficult people but that’s okay gracefully, accept that there can be more than one point of view for any given situation. don’t demand compliance and don’t try to change or convince anyone .it usually only backfires.

2  Give up being reactive

Most fights in the world happened because people don’t listen to what is being said. do you also tend to react first before understanding it is not uncommon .however ,remember that the first reaction is ,generally , an emotional , impulsive and a logical one .it is not even, necessarily your only opinion.  so the next time your ‘nemes is ‘ voices and opinion,  really listen. don’t think of rebuttals and counter arguments simultaneously . chances are that he or she will also show you the same consideration this will help smoothen relations between you.

3  Be natural

Be yourself . don’t act like you are okay with something if you are not. it is tough to keep up pretences for long anyway. Especially if you are working with these difficult people day in and day out .One lie requires another and another to keep face so don’t put on masks and appear inconsistent. you cannot learn how to deal with difficult people if you ,yourself are not trustworthy and reliable. state your stand and be firm ,though not right.

4  Give respect to get respect

As you sow, so you reap if you expect your opinion to count, you must respect the other person’s opinion first .genuinely appreciate the merits of different perspectives and opinions. you might just be pleasantly surprised distance will teach you how to handle difficult people positive emotions like respect tend to bounce back to you in the same form, if not force.

5  Silence is really golden

You must have heard that auntie vessels make the most noise. it is true! The more close a person‘s mind is the more, open their mouth is likely to be! so ensure that you don’t subscribe to this rule . Open your mind and close your mouth . this will make you more likeable so when you share an opinion it is likely to be well received even by the difficult folk.  after all the more scarce your words the greater their value.

6 Stay in the present

Don’t hold the past as a mirror for your current or future interactions with anyone.  This is what makes dealing with difficult people at work and outside the challenge. give people the benefit of doubt people change .opinions change know it and allow it to be so one of the best ways to stay in the present is by practising meditation, it can also help you stay calm and collected when provoked.

7  Try to get along

It could be your boss, colleagues or clients at work. Or these unpleasant volunteers in your community or extended family or even coaches at your children’s hobby classes. you know they say keep your friends close and your enemies even closer! so, be friend the difficult people in your life once you’re able to see things from his or her, view you might be able to relate better it will make dealing with difficult people . at work and outside so much easier all sudden done it is not easy washing with difficult people at the same time it doesn’t have to give you ulcers! so find a working situation that suits your personality and surroundings.

Self-Awareness answer to all your problems

 Awareness is the solution 4

Awareness bring a heightened understanding of intense emotion and distorted thinking. Awareness breaks the cycle of turmoil, alienation and isolation caused by inner wounds. Look for guidance and presence on the journey to awareness, especially as you begin the work of healing and the painful emotions from the past start to surface. Do not act out the emotion or inner sensations in ways that hurt you , other property or the environment.

you must become aware of your emotions and learn to accept them. Feel your emotions and express them safely.  n abused; either mentally, emotionally, physically or spiritually.Abuse combined with a lack or absence of love can create deeply painful inner wounds. Abuse is the extreme of lovelessness.

In your journey, you will meet people who are in touch with being. They are precious gifts on the road of healing, but you must be ready to recognise them as valuable allies in confronting the inner pain and the untruth associated with inner wounds.Lack of love and abuse lead you to believe lies about yourself and others,  which can distort your awareness.Inner wounds not only cloud perception but also block being.

Awareness of being is essential in the work of inner healing.

It is only from the solidity of being that you will be able to face the inner pain of abuse and confront the lies of lovelessness. Take the time to become aware of being. If you want to begin the work of inner healing, work with safe and trusted mentors or friends who have travelled the road of healing or who have been on the road for some time. This is especially important when beginning the journey of healing. The presence of others is a powerful way to awaken your intellect to your presence within.

The being of others touches the Love, Life, Existence,Presence and Truth within you.

This is one way the intellect is awakened to the Reality of Being within. The intellect, body and emotions are awakened to Love, Life,Existence, Presence and Truth “within”.

The Love of other awakens the Love”within”. In Being there is communion with self, others and God.

Communist Party of China –Celebrating 100 years of oppression ….

There are stark similarities between the Nazis and the Communist party of China, 1) They enslaved there own people, 2) They have (Nazis still exist, AKA White supremacists)  serious superiority complex, 3) They both were cowards.

China is a villainous bully, the only way to face them is by standing up against them, If a country shows slightest sign of weakness, it will surely loos its territory and its people will be butchered.

If a country really want to learn how to confront China, they must learn it from India, the only country in the world which opposed the pet project of “XI” Belt and road project and the way Indians confronted the Chinese on the Himalayas.

World must realise that is bully is actually the weakest one, he will seek vulnerable opponents to oppress, and will backoff if the opponent retaliates.

World must stop this evil ideology and must unite to overturn the vile government of China, must support the democracy to liberate more than a billion human beings.

This can only happen if the people around the world start discarding Chinese Goods, please remember that if you are purchasing any thing that’s made is China, you are supporting slavery and feeding the monster who will eventually come after you.